I hope everyone is doing well on this beautiful day.
In honor of our 5th wedding anniversary this month, I wanted to dedicate a post to my husband!
While I’ve learned a lot of life lessons from people in my life (dad, mom, grandparents, close friends) I’ve also learned a few from my husband as well, and haven’t ever seen this type of post before so I thought why not do one myself?!
My husband is my rock, soulmate and best friend – we’ve had extreme lows and extreme highs, but we’ve managed to stay afloat on this rocky sea called life together.
I honestly don’t know where I’d be without him, he has made my life so enriched and blessed!
“it’s OK to be comfortable”
This is still something he saya to be all the time, because I’m continually trying to incorporate this into my life – being comfortable.
In how I dress, act, live and present myself.
Sure, there’s appropriate times to be a little dressed up, but most of the time we sacrifice our comfort in some way because “it’s what society expects” us to do. But that isn’t really living, and society is very flawed to begin with.
A ‘keeping up with the Jones’ mentality only produces debt, grief, and a low self esteem.
“being private is a luxury”
While there was a lot of things about my now-husband that piqued my interest in the beginning, a big thing was his use of social media.
Or the lack thereof!
He is probably one of the most private people I’ve ever known and has a deep dislike of social media outlets.
When we first met, I would share pictures or short videos of *everything* I was doing during the day, but slowly I’ve come to realize the freedom and simplicity of a more private life.
Now, like my husband, I’d much rather have friends over to our home for dinner or a few close people I choose to keep up with rather than display my life intimately with people who don’t even have my phone number or have anything to do with me besides “like” a post!
“everyone isn’t going to like you”
I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser – emphasis on “a bit”.
Now, thanks to my husband, I’m healing from that personality disorder!
People pleasing / co-dependency is something I just thought I’d never be free from, since I couldn’t remember a time when I wasn’t operating via one of the two (or both), but here I am healing and getting stronger each day.
My husband has said it time and time again – not everyone is going to like me, and that’s OK.
People don’t have to like me, a choice I made, a thought I have, or something I’ve done – it’s their choice to like it or not and isn’t in my ball court.
“you control your actions/behaviors/emotions”
Truth be told, I can have a short fuse sometimes.
I would say “I get it honest from my Irish side” but that’s just a cop out instead of actually controlling whatever action or behavior or emotion I’m feeling!
However, it’s definitely a life lesson I’m still learning to live by ….. some days are a lot harder than others for sure.
My husband has taught me that I do possess the power over my emotions which feed my actions and behaviors, and I’m grateful he’s as patient as he is!
“culture is toxic when it comes to it’s expectations for females”
You’re probably thinking “woah! your husband said that!?” and yep – he has countless times!
It can be very difficult to break the cultures mold on what femininity is or what females are “supposed” to look/act/be like – but it is so freeing once you finally do!!
“just be you”
Possibly the sweetest life lesson I’ve learned from my husband is to be completely and unapologetically myself.
There isn’t a lot of people who carry this message anymore, but it’s so vital!
To have a spouse who isn’t hooked on societies way of thinking and pushes for me to become the best, raw form of myself that I can become is so empowering and inspirational it’s hard to describe.
While there’s countless little lessons I’ve learned from my husband, these stick out the most and impact my daily life!
I’m so thankful to call him mine.